Dear Guys,,

Let me begin with" I'm s sorry ". (exhales)

I'm sorry for ignoring and hurting your feelings last Friday.I know what happened was beyond your control .I was even very disappointed of what  I did last Friday.  I can see that my behavior and attitude was hurtful and totally unnecessary. You did not deserve to be on the receiving end of my actions. I'm not normally not like this. While I am not excusing myself from unnecessary/immature actions. I believe I acted the way I did because of  bad day, nalaen ko ., etc. If  there was any good that came out of this unfortunate experience, It is that I have grown and learned alternative approachesI hope we can continue to work together, eat together,and  maintain our friendship. Please accept my apology. I know I have done you wrong and I want to let you know how sorry I am . Again, I apologize from the bottom of my heart.  If you have any thoughts on this matter , please feel free to text or call me. :))

 Sincerely,
 Camz

A Woman's Aura

A Woman's Aura

by Anonymous, Europe

The initial attraction for me is not even a physical thing. Not to sound too new-agey or anything, it's actually something about a woman's "aura" that first attracts me to her. Sure, she could be stunningly beautiful, but she could also look like a normal woman, and I would find her ten times as lovely as any model.

It bothers me though to always hear women talk to each other about how there are no decent guys out there. The experiences they describe make it sound like all men are complete jerks or freaks. If they always attract guys like that they might stop to wonder what it is about themselves that draws them to inappropriate men.

Like myself, there are a lot of guys out there who are not flashy or trendy, may not drive the cool car, but truly appreciate the woman they are with. I don't get when women date guys who treat them badly when there are plenty of men around who would love the opportunity to treat a woman like a queen.

So what I'm basically saying is that guys like to be appreciated for who they are, not how much money they make. And if we're given half a chance you will be rewarded with a guy who thinks the world begins and ends with you.

What's Really Important in a Relationship

by Laurel A.

Having passed yet another birthday and wondering if I will ever find a partner with whom I can imagine spending the rest of my life, I have begun to wonder about what is really important in a relationship.

I have long believed (and still do to a large extent) that a life partner should be someone who, on at least some level, stimulates you in four ways: intellectually, emotionally, spiritually and physically. Not all of these things will ever exist at the same level, but there has to be at least a part of each in order to sustain a relationship for years.

For a while I thought that even three out of four was all right. I was with someone for a long time who was just wonderful on the intellectual, emotional and spiritual levels, but I was not attracted to him physically. I thought to myself "Well, sex becomes less passionate as time goes on, and it's not the most important thing certainly." But while it's not the most important thing, it is still important, and no matter how fantastic someone is in all other respects, if you don't have that physical "spark" it's just not going to work in the long-term.

Then, being a very spiritual person myself (though not religious), I dated someone who was on exactly the same spiritual path I was on and I figured it would be absolutely wonderful. But he was so devoted to his practice, above all else, that I could never form a close enough emotional connection, and we only had sex every six weeks or so since he felt that sex drained the energy that one needed to find spiritual enlightenment. So I had to give up on that relationship too. How could I compete with God?

Then I dated someone who didn't believe in anything. Now that was a challenge. I don't care what someone's spiritual beliefs are or if they have never set foot in any type of religious organization (and I don't blame them), but as far as I'm concerned, I can't be with someone who has no faith in anything. Even Einstein, one of the greatest scientific minds in history, said "The most beautiful emotion we can experience is the mystical. It is the power of all true art and science. He to whom this emotion is a stranger, who can no longer wonder and stand rapt in awe, is as good as dead." I'm not into dating dead people.

Now in my late-30's I am beginning to wonder if, as we get older, it gets easier or more difficult for us to find a life companion. The nice thing is that I know who I am and what I want, which is something I can't say I felt in my 20's. However, in knowing what I want I also know what I don't want, and I may miss opportunities to meet someone who doesn't fit into my pre-conceived notion of who I think is right for me.

There are some societies where people don't even meet thier spouse until the day of their wedding. Arranged marriages are more common in the world than we imagine. Going into a marriage of this type, how can one have any expectations at all, aside from hoping your partner will not be abusive. When you have no expectations you can't be disappointed.

Besides, most of the day-to-day life of a marriage consists of very ordinary things. It's not like you will be discussing Sartre every morning over your Rice Krispies. It's about who gets to wash the dog, fix the heater, pick up the kids from school, and the myriad of things that make up 90 percent of living. Nevertheless, that other 10 percent is very important too, and it's what makes the other 90 percent worthwhile.

After a long day at work where the boss has berated you, then having battled your way through traffic and rude drivers so you can get to the grocery store where you wait a half-hour on line to check out amid screaming children, and finally arrive home, it's nice to know there is someone there who you can talk to, who understands who you are, both your strengths and your flaws, and who loves and respects you anyway. And when I find someone who fits that description, I know I will have found the right one for me.

30 Quotes from Famous Love Poems

30 Quotes from Famous Love Poems

1) With the earth and the sky and the water, 

remade, like a casket of gold 

For my dreams of your image that blossoms 

a rose in the deeps of my heart.

          -The Rose in the Deeps of His Heart
                   William Butler Yeats

2) Come live with me and be my love,

And we will all the pleasures prove,

That valleys, groves, hills and fields,

Woods or steepy mountains yields.

          -The Passionate Shepherd to His Love
          Christopher Marlowe

3) Her gesture, motion, and her smiles,

Her wit, her voice my heart beguiles,

Beguiles my heart, I know not why,

And yet, I'll love her till I die.

          -There is a lady sweet and kind
          Thomas Ford

4) i carry your heart with me (i carry it in
my heart) i am never without it (anywhere
i go you go, my dear; and whatever is done
by only me is your doing, my darling
                                      i fear

         - i carry your heart with me
          e.e. cummings

5) I love thee with the passion put to use

In my old griefs, and with my childhood's faith. 

I love thee with a love I seemed to lose

With my lost saints,--I love thee with the breath, 

Smiles, tears, of all my life!--and, if God choose, 

I shall but love thee better after death.

          - How Do I Love Thee?
          Elizabeth Barrett Browning

6) I wish I could remember the first day,

First hour, first moment of your meeting me;

If bright or dim the season it might be;

Summer or winter for aught I can say.

So, unrecorded did it slip away,

So blind was i to see and to forsee,

So dull to mark the budding of my tree

That would not blossom, yet, for many a May.          

            - The First Day
            Christina Rossetti

7) Drink to me, only with thine eyes

And I will pledge with mine;

Or leave a kiss but in the cup,

And I'll not look for wine.

The thirst that from the soul doth rise

Doth ask a drink divine:

But might I of Jove's nectar sup

I would not change for thine.

          - Song: To Celia
          Ben Jonson

8) Love is not love,

Which alters when it alteration finds,

Or bends with the remover to remove.

Oh, no! it is an ever-fixed mark

That looks on tempests.. and is never shaken.

          - Sonnet CXVI
          William Shakespeare

9) Her voice is low and sweet 

 And she's all the world to me

 And for bonnie Annie Laurie

 I'd lay me down and die.                  

            - Annie Laurie 
            William Douglas

10) Neither love me for

Thine own dear pity's wiping my cheeks dry,

A creature might forget to weep, who bore

Thy comfort long, and lose thy love, thereby!

But love me for love's sake, that evermore

Thou mayst love on, through love's eternity.

          - Sonnets from the Portuguese, XIV
          Elizabeth Barrett Browning

11) She walks in beauty, like the night

Of cloudless climes and starry skies;

And all that's best of dark and bright

Meet in her aspect and her eyes:

          - She Walks In Beauty Like the Night
          Lord Tennyson

12) How many loved your moments of glad grace,
And loved your beauty with love false or true;
But one man loved the pilgrim soul in you,
And loved the sorrows of your changing face.

          - When You Are Old
          William Butler Yeats

13) This feeling is like a wonderful sting.
I want this feeling to hold me captive.
I wouldn't give this up, not even for all four seasons to be spring.
It doesn't need to be masked as attractive,
This unstable beautiful pain is mine, its what I want, what I need!

          - A Wonderful Sting
          David P. Leverett

14) My love is as a fever, longing still
For that which longer nurseth the disease,
Feeding on that which doth preserve the ill,
Th' uncertain sickly appetite to please.
My reason, the physician to my love,
Angry that his prescriptions are not kept,
Hath left me, and I desperate now approve
Desire is death, which physic did except.

          - My love is as a fever – Sonnet 147
          William Shakespeare

15) Were spirits free from mortal mesh
And love not bound in hearts of flesh
No aching breasts would yearn to meet
And find their ecstasy complete.

For who is there that lives and knows
The secret powers by which he grows?

          - Because She Would Ask Me Why I Loved Her?
          Christopher Brennan

16) Where true Love burns Desire is Love's pure flame;
It is the reflex of our earthly frame,
That takes its meaning from the nobler part,
And but translates the language of the heart.

          - Desire
          Samuel Taylor Coleridge

17) I love thee as I love the tone
    Of some soft-breathing flute
Whose soul is wak'd for me alone,
    When all beside is mute.

          - I Love Thee
          Eliza Acton

18) I count no more my wasted tears;
   They left no echo of their fall;
I mourn no more my lonesome years;
   This blessed hour atones for all.
I fear not all that Time or Fate
   May bring to burden heart or brow,—
Strong in the love that came so late,
   Our souls shall keep it always now!

          - At Last
          Elizabeth Akers Allen

19) My love is such that Rivers cannot quench,
Nor ought but love from thee, give recompence.
Thy love is such I can no way repay,
The heavens reward thee manifold I pray. 

          - To My Dear and Loving Husband
          Anne Bradstreet

20) Love seeketh not Itself to please,
Nor for itself hath any care;
But for another gives its ease,
And builds a Heaven in Hells despair.

          - The Clod and the Pebble
          William Blake

21) I never saw so sweet a face
As that I stood before.
My heart has left its dwelling place
And can return no more.

          - First Love
          John Clare

21) Well: Love and Pain
Be kinfolks twain;
Yet would, Oh would I could Love again.

          - A Song of Love
          Sidney Lanier

22) You & I, Love, together we ratify the silence,
while the sea destroys its perpetual statues,
collapses its towers of wild speed and whiteness:

because in the weavings of those invisible fabrics,
galloping water, incessant sand,
we make the only permanent tenderness.

          - Love Sonnet IX
          Pablo Neruda

23) Oh, may your silhouette never dissolve on the beach;
may your eyelids never flutter into the empty
distance.
Don't leave me for a second, my dearest.

          - Love Sonnet XLV
          Pablo Neruda

24) He brought me to the banqueting house,
and his banner over me was love.
Stay me with flagons, comfort me with apples:
for I am sick of love. 

          - The Rose of Sharon
          Solomon

25) Beauty and love are all my dream;
They change not with the changing day;
Love stays forever like a stream
That flows but never flows away;

          - Beauty and Love
          Andrew Young

25) But
if each day,
each hour,
you feel that you are destined for me
with implacable sweetness,
if each day a flower
climbs up to your lips to seek me,
ah my love, ah my own,
in me all that fire is repeated,
in me nothing is extinguished or forgotten,
my love feeds on your love, beloved,
and as long as you live it will be in your arms
without leaving mine.

          - If You Forget Me
          Pablo Neruda

26) Then came a moment of renaissance,
I looked up - you again are there,
A fleeting vision, the quintessence
Of all that`s beautiful and rare.

         - A Magic Moment I Remember
          Alexander Pushkin

27) Whenever Beauty looks,
Love is also there;
Whenever beauty shows a rosy cheek
Love lights Her fire from that flame.
When beauty dwells in the dark folds of night
Love comes and finds a heart
entangled in tresses.
Beauty and Love are as body and soul.
Beauty is the mine, Love is the diamond.

          - All Through Eternity
          Rumi

28) is the lasting beauty:
its lips give to drink
of the water of life.
Truly it is the water,
that which pours,
and the one who drinks.

          The Beauty of the Heart
          Rumi

29) What is love? 'Tis not hereafter;
Present mirth hath present laughter;
What's to come is still unsure:
In delay there lies not plenty;
Then, come kiss me, sweet and twenty,
Youth's a stuff will not endure.

          - O Mistress Mine
          William Shakespeare

30) Again and again, however we know the landscape of love
and the little churchyard there, with its sorrowing names,
and the frighteningly silent abyss into which the others
fall: again and again the two of us walk out together
under the ancient trees, lie down again and again
among the flowers, face to face with the sky.

         - The Landscape of Love
          Rainer Maria Rilke

true love at 16 ( how i wish ing,ane pud tah ku ) :(

True Love at 16?

by Sirena Van Schaik

I didn’t expect to find my true love when I was 16 and I definitely didn’t expect my friend’s brother to be my true love. In fact, when I found out James was moving down to Vancouver from Ontario, I figured we would just be friends. I had already met him, a few months before, and while I had felt some little spark of recognition at the time, I didn’t think anything of it.

I was 16 after all and dating was the last thing on my mind. In fact, I was adamantly against it.  Oh sure, I had dated a few boys over my teen years but I found dating had more headaches and pressures than I cared to have at that age so as my seventeenth birthday loomed a few months ahead, I was enjoying the last year and a half dateless.

When James arrived, he simply moved into my life without even a hint of upset.  He was there to walk me home when I left my friend’s house and he was there when I needed to talk to someone.  In the mornings, he would walk me to school and as he wandered away, I felt upset that I wouldn’t see him for the whole day.

It often felt like I had known him forever and I found myself looking forward to seeing him, something that was so unusual for me.  In addition, I felt completely at ease with him and I didn’t feel pressured or like he was simply waiting for me to give in and start dating.

I found that it was easy and for the first time in a very confusing childhood, I didn’t have to pretend or act happy when I wasn’t.  I didn’t have to hold back on my opinions or pretend to be something I wasn’t.  I was me, in all my opinionated, strange and dark way.  I could laugh without being scared to do so and more importantly, I could cry and actually explain the reason why I did.

It was a wonderful experience for me, and I cherished the friendship that we were building in such a short time.  But it was just a friendship, I had told myself.  I mean, who finds their true love at 16? 

As summer quickly shifted into fall, I realized that I had feelings building for James.  We didn’t talk about them, we talked about everything else but what was happening.  The days became crisp and the leaves began to change, a vivid color display amidst the evergreens.  And then one day, I looked up at him as he slipped his fingers between mine and I knew this was the man that I loved.

Panic seized me.  I was 16, how could I know what love was?  I was 16 but I knew without a doubt that I wasn’t the right person for him.  I panicked, and I fled the next day, telling my friend that I couldn’t see him anymore. I told her that I wasn’t right for him, wasn’t the best person for him and I was too confused, too immature, had too many problems to date anyone, let alone him.

She looked at me, wrapped her arms around me and said, “I think you need to tell James, not me.”

II didn’t know what to say, what to do.  Everything was too new and too overwhelming but eventually I agreed to let her talk to him for me.  Later that evening, I met with him and he simply shared the space.

We didn’t talk, he didn’t accuse me of anything or tell me I was being childish.  We sat there in silence and I simply enjoyed his closeness.  Finally, he looked at me in his quiet way and smiled, his brown eyes warm as he said, “None of it matters to me. Only you matter to me.”

I think it was his eyes that convinced me enough to stay and we simply enjoyed each others company until it got late and I had to go home.  When I closed the door after he left, I knew that I didn’t have to leave, didn’t have to panic.  I had found someone that understood who I was, no matter how strange or complicated I was.  I knew that I had found someone that I could love without being afraid to love.

The next day I saw James, and the day after that, and the week after that.  The days flew into weeks, the weeks into months and then finally  the months into years.  We didn’t rush into anything but we were married when I was 21 and now at the age of 33, I still look into his brown eyes and see the quiet man that he is.  I see my heart and I know that, despite all the odds, I found my true love at 16 and I look forward to spending the rest of my life with him.

Mother and Son

Mother and Son

My mom only had one eye. I hated her, she was such an embarrassment. My mom ran a small shop at a flea market.She collected little weeds and such to sell, anything for the money we needed she was such an embarrassment.There was this one day during elementary school. I remember that it was field day, and my mom came. I was so embarrassed. How could she do this to me? I threw her a hateful look and ran out. The next day at school..."Your mom only has one eye?!" and they taunted me.
I wished that my mom would just disappear from this world so I said to my mom, "Mom, why don't you have the other eye?! You're only going to make me a laughingstock. Why don't you just die?" My mom did not respond. I guess I felt a little bad, but at the same time, it felt good to think that I had said what I'd wanted to say all this time.
Maybe it was because my mom hadn't punished me, but I didn't think that I had hurt her feelings very badly.
That night...I woke up, and went to the kitchen to get a glass of water. My mom was crying there, so quietly, as if she was afraid that she might wake me. I took a look at her, and then turned away. Because of the thing I had said to her earlier, there was something pinching at me in the corner of my heart. Even so, I hated my mother who was crying out of her one eye. So I told myself that I would grow up and become successful, because I hated my one-eyed mom and our desperate poverty.
Then I studied really hard. I left my mother and came to Seoul and studied, and got accepted in the Seoul University with all the confidence I had. Then, I got married. I bought a house of my own. Then I had kids, too. Now I'm living happily as a successful man. I like it here because it's a place that doesn't remind me of my mom.
This happiness was getting bigger and bigger, when someone unexpected came to see me "What?! Who's this?!"... It was my mother...Still with her one eye. It felt as if the whole sky was falling apart on me. My little girl ran away, scared of my mom's eye.
And I asked her, "Who are you? I don't know you!!!" as if I tried to make that real. I screamed at her "How dare you come to my house and scare my daughter! Get out here now!" And to this, my mother quietly answered, "oh, I'm so sorry. I may have gotten the wrong address," and she disappeared. Thank good ness... she doesn't recognize me. I was quite relieved. I told myself that I wasn't going to care, or think about this for the rest of my life.
Then a wave of relief came upon me... one day, a letter regarding a school reunion came to my house. I lied to my wife saying that I was going on a business trip. After the reunion, I went down to the old shack, that I used to call a house...just out of curiosity there, I found my mother fallen on the cold ground. But I did not shed a single tear. She had a piece of paper in her hand.... it was a letter to me.
My Son,
I think my life has been long enough now. And... I won't visit Seoul anymore... but would it be too much to ask if I wanted you to come visit me once in a while? I miss you so much. And I was so glad when I heard you were coming for the reunion. But I decided not to go to the school.... For you... I'm sorry that I only have one eye, and I was an embarrassment for you.
You see, when you were very little, you got into an accident, and lost your eye. As a mother, I couldn't stand watching you having to grow up with only one eye... so I gave you mine... I was so proud of my son that was seeing a whole new world for me, in my place, with that eye. I was never upset at you for anything you did. The couple times that you were angry with me. I thought to myself, 'it's because he loves me.' I miss the times when you were still young around me.
I miss you so much. I love you. You mean the world to me. My world shattered! Then I cried for the person who lived for me. My Mother.

Excerpt from Charles Sykes

On the rules of life for graduates.

Some have said this was from Bill Gates talk to high school graduates
but probably he did not say this unless he quoted Sykes.

RULE 1.

Life is not fair; get used to it.

RULE 2.

The world won't care about your self-esteem. The world will expect you
to accomplish something BEFORE you feel good about yourself.

RULE 3.

You will NOT make 40 thousand dollars a year right out of high school OR
college. You won't be a vice-president with a car phone, until you earn
both.

RULE 4.

If you think your teacher is tough, wait until you get a boss. He
doesn't have tenure.

RULE 5.

Flipping burgers is not beneath your dignity. Your grandparents had a
different word for burger flipping; they called it opportunity.

RULE 6.

If you mess up, it's not your parents' fault, so don't whine about your
mistakes, learn from them.

RULE 7.

Before you were born, your parents weren't as boring as they are now.
They got that way from paying your bills, cleaning your clothes and
listening to you talk about how cool you are. So before you save the
rain forest from the parasites of your parents' generation, try
"delousing" the closet in your own room.

RULE 8.

Your school may have done away with winners and losers, but life has
not. In some schools they have abolished failing grades; they'll give
you as many times as you want to get the right answer. This doesn't bear
the slightest resemblance to ANYTHING in real life.

RULE 9.

Life is not divided into semesters. You don't get summers off and very
few employers are interested in helping you find yourself. Do that on
your own time.

RULE 10.

Television is NOT real life. In real life people actually have to leave
the coffee shop and go to jobs.

RULE 11.

Be nice to nerds. Chances are you'll end up working for one.

happy 10th monthsary NOZOANOSO  <3!! i lhubb yoouu... mwuuuuauuhhh you've just been kissed by me :)